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Friend Questionnaire

    Do you want to be / are you already a part of the Discord community?

    Do you agree that your answers to the rest of this questionnaire may be shared publicly on lillyfriendproject.com and in related content including social media, podcasts etc.

    3 Preliminary questions (feel free to stop doing the questionnaire if you answer yes to question 2, neither to question 3):

    1. Where do you live?

    2. Are you crazy?

    YesNo

    3. Do you want more friends?

    11 Open-answer Questions (word limit 300 words for each question)

    1. Why are you filling out this questionnaire?

    2. How many "close friends" (by close friends I mean people that you see more than twice a month if they live in your area or if they are a long-distance friend that you speak with at least twice a month) do you have?

    3. It's Saturday morning! What time are you up and what do you want to do with the day?

    4. Do you like to go to any kind of cultural experiences? What kind and how often?

    5. How do you feel about Amy Winehouse?

    6. "Uh oh! I'm experiencing a negative emotion"; what happens inside you? How do you deal with it?

    7. How do you feel about school and teachers?

    8. What is the most meaningful way to spend time?

    9. What is your favorite law (if you do not have a favorite, what is one that you think of positively)?

    10. What app on your phone (other than essentials) is your most used app?

    11. What are you hoping to get from filling this out?

    14 Multiple Choice

    1. If you had to choose one word to describe yourself, which one would you choose:

    ScarySportyBabyGingerPosh

    2. The worst month is:

    JanuaryMarchJulyNovemberI don't think about it this way

    3. Do you live to eat or eat to live?

    Eat to liveLive to eatI'm really not sureIt's complicated....I'm uncomfortable by this question and prefer not to answer

    4. How do you feel about August: Osage County:

    Love that movie!Hate that play!I thought it was a moving and interesting depiction of the American familyMerryl Streep was great(doi!) and I am indifferent/feel somewhat positive about itDon't know what that is

    5. How often do you speak about your love life with your friends?

    A lotNot that oftenOnce every other timeI feel it out and need to make sure I don't talk about it too muchEverytime I see my best friends

    6. Your biggest fear about getting older is:

    Becoming irrelevantRunning out of timeMy body falling apartBecoming boringI'm not afraid of getting older

    7. Dogs wearing clothes are:

    Adorable and necessary for their comfortHumiliating for the dogFine for practical reasons only (rain, cold)A symptom of social rotDepends entirely on the dog's attitude about it

    8. People who don't tip well:

    Probably just don't understand how service industry worksAre fundamentally bad peopleMight be going through something financiallyShould be banned from restaurantsI don't judge people's tipping habits

    9. Distance in relationships:

    Is always a sign something is wrongCan actually strengthen the bond between peopleShould be avoided at all costsIs necessary for maintaining mysteryMeans someone isn't trying hard enough

    10. The best way to end a text conversation is:

    Just stop responding when it feels naturalSay 'okay talk soon!' or similarSend a thumbs up emojiYou don't end them, they just fadeThere is no good way

    11. The phrase "it is what it is" is:

    Zen wisdomGiving up disguised as acceptanceSometimes true, sometimes lazyThe most annoying phrase in EnglishPerfect for ending awkward conversations

    12. When someone consistently disappoints you, you:

    Keep giving them chances because that's what loyalty meansGradually distance yourself while remaining cordialHave a direct conversation about expectationsCut them off immediately - life's too shortUse it as an opportunity to examine your own expectations

    13. How do you feel about answering all these questions:

    Annoyed - this was way too longIntrigued - I enjoyed thinking about these thingsResentful - some of these felt invasiveExcited to discuss my answers with someoneNeutral - just another survey

    14. If we met in person, what would you want to talk about first:

    Something completely unrelated to this questionnaireWhy you asked such weird questionsThe answers we disagreed on mostWhatever comes up naturally in conversationI'd rather just see what happens

    1 Essay Question (minimum 500 words, maximum 1000 words)

    Please describe a friend breakup you have gone through. If you haven't gone through a friend breakup, please explain why you think you have never gone through a friend breakup. Outline a major friendship in your life and explain why it is successful.