Episodes

Lilly becomes obsessed with Em, whose thoughtful questionnaire answers about ginger ale at the Natural History Museum and acid-induced existential crises made her seem like the perfect friend—until she completely ghosted. While analyzing the 70 questionnaire responses she received, Lilly realizes the project was as much about understanding herself as finding friends. Plus, someone admits they filled out the questionnaire because Lilly seemed desperately funny, and the essay question about friend breakups reveals what people actually value when relationships fall apart.

Lilly explores the quiet endings that happen without ceremony—no "we need to talk" conversations, no dividing of stuff, just silence. Frances describes a friendship that slowly drifted apart through mutual assumptions, Renata shares how her sister-like best friend disappeared for two years over something that wasn't even an issue, and Daniel finally explains why he ghosted Lilly after college. Plus, Friedrich Nietzsche's philosophy on "star friendship" suggests that sometimes letting people go is the most loving thing you can do.

Lilly meets Sam Singh, who notices her questionnaire offered "friendship without pretenses", and Siegfried, who worries the whole thing might be an Eric Andre show prank [00:01:00]. Both reveal what it's like to be the reliable friend everyone calls during a crisis, the emotional labor of always showing up for others, and the moment you realize you might be giving more than you're getting. Plus, Sam is a regular at a karaoke club and Siegfried once had to let a blackout-drunk coworker sleep on his couch, which taught him important lessons about boundaries.

Lilly steps back to let her friends do the talking about setting limits in relationships. Sustaita explains why she sees people as chapters, Emma describes leaving Christianity and losing her best friend to marriage during the pandemic, Thomas reveals his new approach to planning trips to Italy, and Sundara reflects on seventeen years of fighting and making up with Lilly. Plus, someone finally explains what happens when you're the person who always pays rent in a studio apartment.

Lilly meets three people who've figured out how to create their own spaces in New York City. Ankham left Laos to find freedom in K-Town, Samuel turned his recording studio into something sacred in the Bronx, and Leah navigated her way back to Judaism on her own terms in Williamsburg. Plus, Lilly realizes her questionnaire answers about strawberry soju shots might reveal more about friendship compatibility than she initially thought.