Elizabeth - Lilly Friend Project

Preliminary Questions

1. Where do you live?

Brooklyn

2. Are you crazy?

Yes No

3. Do you want more friends?

internet friends in-person friends both

Open Questions

1. Why are you filling out this questionnaire?

I am intrigued

2. How many "close friends" (by close friends I mean people that you see more than twice a month if they live in the tri-state area or if they are a long-distance friend that you speak with at least twice a month) do you have?

3. It's Saturday morning! What time are you up and what do you want to do with the day?

If I'm not working I am up by 9am. I try to knock out any housework I don't have time for during the week first before anything else. I'm an introvert so If I'm not hanging out with my significant other I'm at home reading, catching up on shows, or taking long walks.

4. Do you like to go to any kind of cultural experiences? What kind and how often?

Not sure what is meant by "cultural experiences ".

5. How do you feel about Amy Winehouse?

She was failed by every single person in her life.

6. "Uh oh! I'm experiencing a negative emotion"; what happens inside you? How do you deal with it?

I'm not the best at conveying negative emotions, but I'm working on it. I usually keep them to myself and let them pile on for far too long though.

7. How do you feel about school and teachers?

I miss school. Teachers are underpaid and treated like garbage.

8. What is the most meaningful way to spend time?

Doing things that make you happy. Life is way too short to give a shit what other people think.

9. What is your favorite law (if you do not have a favorite, what is one that you think of positively)?

No smoking indoors

10. What app on your phone (other than essentials) is your most used app?

Tiktok sadly

11. What are you hoping to get from filling this out?

I really don't know

Multiple-Choice Questions

1. If you had to choose one word to describe yourself, which one would you choose:

Scary Sporty Baby Ginger Posh

2. The worst month is:

January March July November I don't think about this way

3. Do you live to eat or eat to live?

Eat to live Live to eat I'm really not sure It's complicated.... 🙁 I'm uncomfortable by this question and prefer not to answer

4. How do you feel about August: Osage County:

Love that movie! Hate that play! I thought it was a moving and interesting depiction of the American family Merryl Streep was great(doi!) and I am indifferent/feel somewhat positive about it Don't know what that is

5. How often do you speak about your love life with your friends?

A lot Not that often Once every other time I feel it out and need to make sure I don't talk about it too much Everytime I see my best friends

6. Your biggest fear about getting older is:

Becoming irrelevant Running out of time My body falling apart Becoming boring I'm not afraid of getting older

7. Dogs wearing clothes are:

Adorable and necessary for their comfort Humiliating for the dog Fine for practical reasons only (rain, cold) A symptom of social rot Depends entirely on the dog's attitude about it

8. People who don't tip well:

Probably just don't understand how service industry works Are fundamentally bad people Might be going through something financially Should be banned from restaurants I don't judge people's tipping habits

9. Distance in relationships:

Is always a sign something is wrong Can actually strengthen the bond between people Should be avoided at all costs Is necessary for maintaining mystery Means someone isn't trying hard enough

10. The best way to end a text conversation is:

Just stop responding when it feels natural Say 'okay talk soon!' or similar Send a thumbs up emoji You don't end them, they just fade There is no good way

11. The phrase "it is what it is" is:

Zen wisdom Giving up disguised as acceptance Sometimes true, sometimes lazy The most annoying phrase in English Perfect for ending awkward conversations

12. When someone consistently disappoints you, you:

Keep giving them chances because that's what loyalty means Gradually distance yourself while remaining cordial Have a direct conversation about expectations Cut them off immediately - life's too short Use it as an opportunity to examine your own expectations

13. How do you feel about answering all these questions:

Annoyed - this was way too long Intrigued - I enjoyed thinking about these things Resentful - some of these felt invasive Excited to discuss my answers with someone Neutral - just another survey

14. If we met in person, what would you want to talk about first:

Something completely unrelated to this questionnaire Why you asked such weird questions The answers we disagreed on most Whatever comes up naturally in conversation I'd rather just see what happens

Essay Question

Please describe a friend breakup you have gone through. If you haven't gone through a friend breakup, please explain why you think you have never gone through a friend breakup. Outline a major friendship in your life and explain why it is successful.

Let me preface this by saying I haven't had many friends. Throughout my school age years I had friends in school but never really socialized outside of school. I was sheltered and had overbearing parents. I did have an online friend and we wound up going to the same college for a while. We hung out a handful of times over the years, but mostly spoke online. I know it's because I was sheltered and didn't socialize much when I was a kid, but I'm a little awkward in social situations and my social battery runs out quickly-so I really tried to avoid hanging in person. I guess I couldn't meet the needs of my friend because she just stopped talking to me out of the blue. After 14 years she just ghosted me.