Chloe - Lilly Friend Project

Preliminary Questions

1. Where do you live?

East Village

2. Are you crazy?

Yes No

3. Do you want more friends?

internet friends in-person friends both

Open Questions

1. Why are you filling out this questionnaire?

I moved to New York City five months ago. I applied to jobs everywhere, but this was the only job I got, so here I am. I didn’t know a single person when I moved here, and 5 months later I have a few new friends, but none that have really clicked. I’m trying to put myself out there, go to new places, try new things, but it’s hard. I’m still new, but I don’t want another 5 months to go by and nothings changed.

2. How many "close friends" (by close friends I mean people that you see more than twice a month if they live in the tri-state area or if they are a long-distance friend that you speak with at least twice a month) do you have?

5? It’s hard to define a close friend when there’s some people who are important to me, but I don’t see or speak with them often.

3. It's Saturday morning! What time are you up and what do you want to do with the day?

I slept in until 9am and had a slow morning. Didn’t leave my apt until noon. Maybe I go to the gym, maybe I go explore some new area, maybe I go to the museum, or maybe I go smoke and sit in the park all day. (Or shopping, but I’m trying to stop shopping)

4. Do you like to go to any kind of cultural experiences? What kind and how often?

Hm. I can’t say I’ve ever been to a cultural experience.

5. How do you feel about Amy Winehouse?

Back to black is great (obvious answer) but I’m not a huge fan or anything.

6. "Uh oh! I'm experiencing a negative emotion"; what happens inside you? How do you deal with it?

Oof. I have a bad habit of ignoring my bad feelings in hope they go away. But honestly, about half the time they do. The other half of the time, it’s a later issue.

7. How do you feel about school and teachers?

I loved school. I loved my teachers.

8. What is the most meaningful way to spend time?

With people you love

9. What is your favorite law (if you do not have a favorite, what is one that you think of positively)?

Newtons 3rd law. You can apply it to more than just forces. You are mean to me, you are equally mean to yourself.

10. What app on your phone (other than essentials) is your most used app?

iMessage or instagram.

11. What are you hoping to get from filling this out?

A friend!

Multiple-Choice Questions

1. If you had to choose one word to describe yourself, which one would you choose:

Scary Sporty Baby Ginger Posh

2. The worst month is:

January March July November I don't think about this way

3. Do you live to eat or eat to live?

Eat to live Live to eat I'm really not sure It's complicated.... 🙁 I'm uncomfortable by this question and prefer not to answer

4. How do you feel about August: Osage County:

Love that movie! Hate that play! I thought it was a moving and interesting depiction of the American family Merryl Streep was great(doi!) and I am indifferent/feel somewhat positive about it Don't know what that is

5. How often do you speak about your love life with your friends?

A lot Not that often Once every other time I feel it out and need to make sure I don't talk about it too much Everytime I see my best friends

6. Your biggest fear about getting older is:

Becoming irrelevant Running out of time My body falling apart Becoming boring I'm not afraid of getting older

7. Dogs wearing clothes are:

Adorable and necessary for their comfort Humiliating for the dog Fine for practical reasons only (rain, cold) A symptom of social rot Depends entirely on the dog's attitude about it

8. People who don't tip well:

Probably just don't understand how service industry works Are fundamentally bad people Might be going through something financially Should be banned from restaurants I don't judge people's tipping habits

9. Distance in relationships:

Is always a sign something is wrong Can actually strengthen the bond between people Should be avoided at all costs Is necessary for maintaining mystery Means someone isn't trying hard enough

10. The best way to end a text conversation is:

Just stop responding when it feels natural Say 'okay talk soon!' or similar Send a thumbs up emoji You don't end them, they just fade There is no good way

11. The phrase "it is what it is" is:

Zen wisdom Giving up disguised as acceptance Sometimes true, sometimes lazy The most annoying phrase in English Perfect for ending awkward conversations

12. When someone consistently disappoints you, you:

Keep giving them chances because that's what loyalty means Gradually distance yourself while remaining cordial Have a direct conversation about expectations Cut them off immediately - life's too short Use it as an opportunity to examine your own expectations

13. How do you feel about answering all these questions:

Annoyed - this was way too long Intrigued - I enjoyed thinking about these things Resentful - some of these felt invasive Excited to discuss my answers with someone Neutral - just another survey

14. If we met in person, what would you want to talk about first:

Something completely unrelated to this questionnaire Why you asked such weird questions The answers we disagreed on most Whatever comes up naturally in conversation I'd rather just see what happens

Essay Question

Please describe a friend breakup you have gone through. If you haven't gone through a friend breakup, please explain why you think you have never gone through a friend breakup. Outline a major friendship in your life and explain why it is successful.

OK for starters I’m doing voice to text so my grammar might not be great. I have a store about my best friend in college, Louise. We live together all four years. Louise was fiery, opinionated, and unapologetic. In some ways, she taught me how to be more confident and be more myself. But Louise was sometimes a hard friend to have. She liked to get her way, and she was extremely judgmental at times. It wasn’t until years later when I had grown in my confidence that I realized that sometimes she walked all over me. I didn’t know what to do, I was scared to confront her, so I just distanced myself a bit. We drifted apart slowly, and naturally, thanks to the fact that we moved apart after college and now live separate lives. We aren’t as close as we used to be, but I think it’s for the best. She taught me a lot about myself, and I’ll always be grateful for that.