- Lilly Friend Project

Preliminary Questions

1. Where do you live?

the Bronx

2. Are you crazy?

Yes No

3. Do you want more friends?

internet friends in-person friends both

Open Questions

1. Why are you filling out this questionnaire?

Apps aren't working. And strangely I'm glad that they aren't. I feel as though advertising ones self can be very exhausting. But when they do you feel really amazing about yourself and the person you're talking about. I want to cut out the exhausting part.

2. How many "close friends" (by close friends I mean people that you see more than twice a month if they live in the tri-state area or if they are a long-distance friend that you speak with at least twice a month) do you have?

I have 2 close friends. I have more friends then 2 but we're not close.

3. It's Saturday morning! What time are you up and what do you want to do with the day?

producing a song on my couch, heading into the city to meet a friend, at a diner with an iced coffee or reading "how to survive a horror story" by Mallory Arnold.

4. Do you like to go to any kind of cultural experiences? What kind and how often?

I'm trans and I want to be a part of queer culture more but im not and I have millions of reasons that won't fit in this small box.

5. How do you feel about Amy Winehouse?

I love her music. I'm inspired by her very much. A beautiful tragedy in black.

6. "Uh oh! I'm experiencing a negative emotion"; what happens inside you? How do you deal with it?

I make sure I have taken my daily medication and if I havent I make a plan to do so and take some space and/or leave.

7. How do you feel about school and teachers?

I feel that the school system is currently engineered towards a specific type of learner that i am not. I struggled a lot in school. sometimes I was bullied by teachers. but the tiniest few might mean well. they might even help.

8. What is the most meaningful way to spend time?

I feel that talking is amazing but not needed. the right people can connect with each other while hanging out in quiet (though I won't say total quiet because there should be a "hi how are you?" in there somewhere")

9. What is your favorite law (if you do not have a favorite, what is one that you think of positively)?

Illegal to serve alcohol to a moose in Fairbanks, Alaska.

10. What app on your phone (other than essentials) is your most used app?

Spotify. I eat sleep and deeply breathe music.

11. What are you hoping to get from filling this out?

I want to meet more people.I want to interact more and have friends in the adult world.

Multiple-Choice Questions

1. If you had to choose one word to describe yourself, which one would you choose:

Scary Sporty Baby Ginger Posh

2. The worst month is:

January March July November I don't think about this way

3. Do you live to eat or eat to live?

Eat to live Live to eat I'm really not sure It's complicated.... 🙁 I'm uncomfortable by this question and prefer not to answer

4. How do you feel about August: Osage County:

Love that movie! Hate that play! I thought it was a moving and interesting depiction of the American family Merryl Streep was great(doi!) and I am indifferent/feel somewhat positive about it Don't know what that is

5. How often do you speak about your love life with your friends?

A lot Not that often Once every other time I feel it out and need to make sure I don't talk about it too much Everytime I see my best friends

6. Your biggest fear about getting older is:

Becoming irrelevant Running out of time My body falling apart Becoming boring I'm not afraid of getting older

7. Dogs wearing clothes are:

Adorable and necessary for their comfort Humiliating for the dog Fine for practical reasons only (rain, cold) A symptom of social rot Depends entirely on the dog's attitude about it

8. People who don't tip well:

Probably just don't understand how service industry works Are fundamentally bad people Might be going through something financially Should be banned from restaurants I don't judge people's tipping habits

9. Distance in relationships:

Is always a sign something is wrong Can actually strengthen the bond between people Should be avoided at all costs Is necessary for maintaining mystery Means someone isn't trying hard enough

10. The best way to end a text conversation is:

Just stop responding when it feels natural Say 'okay talk soon!' or similar Send a thumbs up emoji You don't end them, they just fade There is no good way

11. The phrase "it is what it is" is:

Zen wisdom Giving up disguised as acceptance Sometimes true, sometimes lazy The most annoying phrase in English Perfect for ending awkward conversations

12. When someone consistently disappoints you, you:

Keep giving them chances because that's what loyalty means Gradually distance yourself while remaining cordial Have a direct conversation about expectations Cut them off immediately - life's too short Use it as an opportunity to examine your own expectations

13. How do you feel about answering all these questions:

Annoyed - this was way too long Intrigued - I enjoyed thinking about these things Resentful - some of these felt invasive Excited to discuss my answers with someone Neutral - just another survey

14. If we met in person, what would you want to talk about first:

Something completely unrelated to this questionnaire Why you asked such weird questions The answers we disagreed on most Whatever comes up naturally in conversation I'd rather just see what happens

Essay Question

Please describe a friend breakup you have gone through. If you haven't gone through a friend breakup, please explain why you think you have never gone through a friend breakup. Outline a major friendship in your life and explain why it is successful.

I met this person on an app named Nic and we got very close very fast and we would hang out every chance we got. At the time I had a partner who was living with me but i wasnt fully comfortable in the relationship. We ended up breaking up and Nic was there for me every step of the way. I started to develop romantic feelings for them and then I left for a summer job in Vermont. while I was in Vermont I asked them if they liked me and they said yes which was scary as all hell. we dated for a week which was very lovely and then they ghosted me. to this day I have no idea why. months later they called me drunk and told me about how they had a new boyfriend and a new job. I asked why they blocked me and they told me it was because I was too cheesy. I lost my best friend to cheese.