Cayden Chaffin - Lilly Friend Project

Preliminary Questions

1. Where do you live?

Washington Heights

2. Are you crazy?

Yes No

3. Do you want more friends?

internet friends in-person friends both

Open Questions

1. Why are you filling out this questionnaire?

To maybe find a community of like minded people I can hang out with and build my village, as the expression goes.

2. How many "close friends" (by close friends I mean people that you see more than twice a month if they live in the tri-state area or if they are a long-distance friend that you speak with at least twice a month) do you have?

3. It's Saturday morning! What time are you up and what do you want to do with the day?

10 AM-11 AM; nap and lounge around, maybe some cleaning and catching up on TV and movies, as well as lazily composing some.

4. Do you like to go to any kind of cultural experiences? What kind and how often?

I try to visit a lot of museums when I can, I think it’s such an essential practice for an artist. Now that I’m 21, I wanna check out more jazz clubs around the city to see some inspiring musicians adjacent to my classical field. I like going to the NY Phil and The Met Opera, and I’m trying to join their student orgs.

5. How do you feel about Amy Winehouse?

I love her! Her vocal timbre is to die for and just her blunt wisdom wrapped in witty lyrics is just soo intoxicatingly good.

6. "Uh oh! I'm experiencing a negative emotion"; what happens inside you? How do you deal with it?

I tend to shut down at first, but then I try my tricks I learn in therapy to get me out of that state but some days are definitely harder than others.

7. How do you feel about school and teachers?

I love school and all my professors, especially now in conservatory, but school can get overwhelming because I sometimes overcommit or feel imposter syndrome and the workload can become overwhelming if I’m not on top of things constantly.

8. What is the most meaningful way to spend time?

With people you love doing what you love.

9. What is your favorite law (if you do not have a favorite, what is one that you think of positively)?

Marriage equality (even though technically it’s not codified).

10. What app on your phone (other than essentials) is your most used app?

Right now Canvas, but TikTok, Instagram, and YouTube are pretty much in a three-way tie 😅.

11. What are you hoping to get from filling this out?

To gain a broader community in the city I want to call home for awhile.

Multiple-Choice Questions

1. If you had to choose one word to describe yourself, which one would you choose:

Scary Sporty Baby Ginger Posh

2. The worst month is:

January March July November I don't think about this way

3. Do you live to eat or eat to live?

Eat to live Live to eat I'm really not sure It's complicated.... 🙁 I'm uncomfortable by this question and prefer not to answer

4. How do you feel about August: Osage County:

Love that movie! Hate that play! I thought it was a moving and interesting depiction of the American family Merryl Streep was great(doi!) and I am indifferent/feel somewhat positive about it Don't know what that is

5. How often do you speak about your love life with your friends?

A lot Not that often Once every other time I feel it out and need to make sure I don't talk about it too much Everytime I see my best friends

6. Your biggest fear about getting older is:

Becoming irrelevant Running out of time My body falling apart Becoming boring I'm not afraid of getting older

7. Dogs wearing clothes are:

Adorable and necessary for their comfort Humiliating for the dog Fine for practical reasons only (rain, cold) A symptom of social rot Depends entirely on the dog's attitude about it

8. People who don't tip well:

Probably just don't understand how service industry works Are fundamentally bad people Might be going through something financially Should be banned from restaurants I don't judge people's tipping habits

9. Distance in relationships:

Is always a sign something is wrong Can actually strengthen the bond between people Should be avoided at all costs Is necessary for maintaining mystery Means someone isn't trying hard enough

10. The best way to end a text conversation is:

Just stop responding when it feels natural Say 'okay talk soon!' or similar Send a thumbs up emoji You don't end them, they just fade There is no good way

11. The phrase "it is what it is" is:

Zen wisdom Giving up disguised as acceptance Sometimes true, sometimes lazy The most annoying phrase in English Perfect for ending awkward conversations

12. When someone consistently disappoints you, you:

Keep giving them chances because that's what loyalty means Gradually distance yourself while remaining cordial Have a direct conversation about expectations Cut them off immediately - life's too short Use it as an opportunity to examine your own expectations

13. How do you feel about answering all these questions:

Annoyed - this was way too long Intrigued - I enjoyed thinking about these things Resentful - some of these felt invasive Excited to discuss my answers with someone Neutral - just another survey

14. If we met in person, what would you want to talk about first:

Something completely unrelated to this questionnaire Why you asked such weird questions The answers we disagreed on most Whatever comes up naturally in conversation I'd rather just see what happens

Essay Question

Please describe a friend breakup you have gone through. If you haven't gone through a friend breakup, please explain why you think you have never gone through a friend breakup. Outline a major friendship in your life and explain why it is successful.

Link to the essay because it’s not copying correctly into the text box (it’s ~580 words maybe that’s why?): https://docs.google.com/document/d/11ZCyzXhq8950s4kUPRIQIlRQoVNrCSLKqLCaFepBgsg/edit?usp=drivesdk