Dr. Drake Ramoray - Lilly Friend Project

Preliminary Questions

Do you live within a thirty-minute radius/are you comfortable commuting to Murray Hill or elsewhere in Manhattan to hang out with me?

[REDACTED]

Are you crazy?

Yes No

Can you supply a personal website or social media profile?

[REDACTED]

Once I review your application, I will reach out to have a more formal, sit-down interview to be my friend in Manhattan. This interview will be videotaped and I will be posting the footage on social media. Are you able to report to Manhattan and spend at least an hour for the interview?

Yes No

Open Questions

How many "close friends" (by close friends I mean people that you see more than twice a month if they live in the tri-state area or if they are a long-distance friend that you speak with at least twice a month) do you have?

By your definition 13ish (I play a lot of D&D 😅). In terms of people I feel platonically close to, probably closer to 3-4

Do you listen to Billie Eilish? If so, why?

I've listened to Bad Guy and it's in rotation because it's a good song. But I can't say I know a lot about her music.

It's Saturday morning! What time are you up and what do you want to do with the day?

Some time between 10 and 12, lazily watch YouTube in bed for an hour, order brunch from Seamless, get ready to leave at 1 to get to my singing lesson. Find something cool to do afterwards (there is a list, but also just stuff off of random flyers in the street).

Have you ever had an existential crisis? How did it come about and what was your ultimate takeaway from it?

Define existential crisis? Have I pondered my place in the world? Yes, and often I've strived to do better afterwards.

You are at a party and a topic comes up that you could go on and on and on about that nobody else knows anything about. What is the topic and would you talk about it or not talk about it?

I mean the weirdest is probably explaining the entire Yu-Gi-Oh timeline (tl;Dr it is vastly overcomplicated, and splits a couple times due to early censorship and when the show decides to pick up from the manga)I definitely have given a rant about it a couple of times.

What do you think about feminism? How did you come to that conclusion?

All the data I've seen have shown women to be treated unfairly in day to day life. As a society, we need to find a path forward that decreases the disparity. On a personal level, however, I feel woefully underqualified to contribute to that conversation.

If there was an alternate reality in which you had a debilitating, life-altering addiction, what would you be addicted to?

Sugar, already pretty close to that IRL 🤣

What are your dreams?

Purely idealisitcally, a pure post-scarcity egalitarian society.Personally, I want people to say that I was a good man after I die and mean it.

Do you believe in ethical consumerism or is it a drop in a giant well that has already been dug by multinational corporations so it doesn't matter?

The latter.

Multiple-Choice Questions

What qualities are most important to you in a friend

Loyalty Honesty Humor Inspiration A and B C and D

What is the worst thing on this list

Processed sugar Stubbing your toe Throwing up Your mom(or another parental type figure) telling an old embarrassing story in front of new people Realizing you were scammed out of $30

Work is:

A means to an ends A way I bring my passions to life Something I do to better society A total bummer A myth that allows rich people to steal from poor people

Which poet's writing do you most connect with?

Sylvia Plath Rumi Rupi Kaur Rainer Maria Rilke Pablo Neruda

Do you feel like you've lived one life or lots of lives?

Lots of lives Once life I don't think about it like that I don't feel like I am living I am too busy living to think about it

How do you feel about answering all these questions:

Annoyed Intrigued Resentful Inspiration Excited to meet in person Neutral

Aristotle once said; "my friends, there are no friends." How do you feel about that:

Agree Disagree Neutral That's so cold and unfeeling! Form is emptiness, emptiness is form. Emptiness is not other than form. Form is not other than emptiness

Essay Question

Please describe a friend breakup you have gone through. If you haven't gone through a friend breakup, please explain why you think you have never gone through a friend breakup. Outline a major friendship in your life and explain why it is successful.

1) To get it out of the way because it wasn't an option (and no where to otherwise explain: I haven't read any of the poets in Question 10.

I thin the biggest friend breakup was in my junior year of college. In years past, I had run/semi-moderated a large group chat with most of the people I made friends with in college. It was originally meant as a means for me to mass send out invites to people for stuff like board game nights, movies, and so on. Other people also invited people in the chat, and people started sharing memes and chatting. It had gone swimmingly, until the end of my junior year. I had added two more friends of mine (because to me the group chat was a very casual place)

The girls in said chat took a bit of umbrage by that, saying they felt unsafe because there were new people in the chat that they didn't know. (In my defense, the chat was super casual and mostly memes). They complained to me about it, and I was like it was super casual.

The breaking point was that the exams were going on, and they decided that the best route to get their way was to bug my girlfriend of the time to get me to change it, but she was super busy with exams and they kept pestering her.

It pissed me off because 1) she was super busy and specifically asked not to be bothered and 2) that they didn't talk to me directly, but instead badgered my now-ex.

Ook ook ook (my friend asked me to put this)

One of my close friends is [REDACTED] (who may also be applying 😅). Our friendship started by a common interest D&D. But we are also just chill dudes, who help each other out when needed.