Jill Green - Lilly Friend Project

Preliminary Questions

Do you live within a thirty-minute radius/are you comfortable commuting to Murray Hill or elsewhere in Manhattan to hang out with me?

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Are you crazy?

Yes No

Can you supply a personal website or social media profile?

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Once I review your application, I will reach out to have a more formal, sit-down interview to be my friend in Manhattan. This interview will be videotaped and I will be posting the footage on social media. Are you able to report to Manhattan and spend at least an hour for the interview?

Yes No

Open Questions

Why are you filling out this questionnaire?

I saw it on TikTok and thought it was hilarious. I wish I had a good idea for a flyer! I moved across the country to NYC in oct so I'm still building my social network. Making friends is hard! Even when you think you vibe you might not fill the right role in their life so you end up having awkward short conversations with strangers.

How many "close friends" (by close friends I mean people that you see more than twice a month if they live in the tri-state area or if they are a long-distance friend that you speak with at least twice a month) do you have?

I would say I have primarily 2 close friendships where I would say I love you. And about 5 somewhat close that I speak with often. I probably have a weekly or biweekly chat/video chat with one of the two closest friends.

Do you listen to Billie Eilish? If so, why?

I'm not a die hard fan but I vibe with her. I have a couple songs on my playlist.

It's Saturday morning! What time are you up and what do you want to do with the day?

I will probably wakeup around 10 am, I like to sleep in if I can. If I plan something it's usually going to a thrift store I haven't been to or a cafe with a specialty food or desert. I like to walk around and see what hidden gem shops I can find as well.

Have you ever had an existential crisis? How did it come about and what was your ultimate takeaway from it?

I don't know if it's ever been a serious existential crisis. It's usually about love. I've kind of wandered through life feeling out of place socially. I still feel that way sometimes. But I think I've realized that I need to focus on the things that make me happy now and not fear of I will be successful in a stereotypical way in the future. I define my own success.

You are at a party and a topic comes up that you could go on and on and on about that nobody else knows anything about. What is the topic and would you talk about it or not talk about it?

Maybe I'm not the most informed but I get passionate about sustainability in fashion and ethical consumerism/value of labor.

What do you think about feminism? How did you come to that conclusion?

Y'know it's one of those things I didn't necessarily feel like labeling myself even though I've always believed in it. In general I've disliked labels or things assigned to me. Like nicknames I've never been a fan. But I will say I think we have to include intersectionality in the conversation and lately I've been challenging myself to have more empathy for men and the ways they are affected by patriarchy.

If there was an alternate reality in which you had a debilitating, life-altering addiction, what would you be addicted to?

Okay this question has me shook. I'm stumped... Idk alcoholism I guess because I don't really drink now so at least I would know the feeling?

What are your dreams?

In the short term, be the energy I desire and seek in other people. Be surrounded by goodness and be able to have fun group hangouts. Save money and get better at my craft. Learn new skills and travel. Long term? It's different now but I just want to have lived a full life. Be able to take care of my mom and dad eventually. Maybe retire on some land and have an animal rescue.

Do you believe in ethical consumerism or is it a drop in a giant well that has already been dug by multinational corporations so it doesn't matter?

I do think it matters and I hate that the argument has become "no ethical consumption under capitalism so you can't hate me for over consuming" like No... At least try your best and choose the lesser of two evils. We need more regulation.

Multiple-Choice Questions

What qualities are most important to you in a friend

Loyalty Honesty Humor Inspiration A and B C and D

What is the worst thing on this list

Processed sugar Stubbing your toe Throwing up Your mom(or another parental type figure) telling an old embarrassing story in front of new people Realizing you were scammed out of $30

Work is:

A means to an ends A way I bring my passions to life Something I do to better society A total bummer A myth that allows rich people to steal from poor people

Which poet's writing do you most connect with?

Sylvia Plath Rumi Rupi Kaur Rainer Maria Rilke Pablo Neruda

Do you feel like you've lived one life or lots of lives?

Lots of lives Once life I don't think about it like that I don't feel like I am living I am too busy living to think about it

How do you feel about answering all these questions:

Annoyed Intrigued Resentful Inspiration Excited to meet in person Neutral

Aristotle once said; "my friends, there are no friends." How do you feel about that:

Agree Disagree Neutral That's so cold and unfeeling! Form is emptiness, emptiness is form. Emptiness is not other than form. Form is not other than emptiness

Essay Question

Please describe a friend breakup you have gone through. If you haven't gone through a friend breakup, please explain why you think you have never gone through a friend breakup. Outline a major friendship in your life and explain why it is successful.

Well, it took me a long time to even have someone to break a friendship with. There are three times I can remember. One was juvenile. Nothing more than being left out and deciding I needed to let go of the desire of being their friend. There was no formal ending.
The second time I ended a friendship. It still wasn't close. I had wanted to reconnect and become friends. I made myself available. But I also put her on a pedestal. I felt envy and I was desperate to have her become a close friend. She was cool unlike me. She had a pixie haircut that looked good on her. She roller skated. I had just gotten into it. She somehow was friends with people I knew. Even though I wanted to be liked and would work around her schedule I didn't trust her. We got high on our way to an event and I had a panic attack. We went home and she drove. We were coming down from the high and she was driving while I lowered my seat to sleep. I warned her of another car about to merge but it hit us anyway. I saw her panicking and I was more than calm. I saw her as a whole person finally. Just another scared human who didn't know what to do. I texted her after a few more attempts at hanging out. "I feel like we're both not putting effort into this friendship" I don't remember if I declared that we should no longer be friends or if it was more of a question. She only wrote back "Ok lol".
The third time I've had a friend breakup was another non confrontational one.
I guess I've always seen her as someone that would grow apart from me. We tried a lot of hobbies together but she had some distance as well. I don't know what caused it but I would wave high across the street and not get a reaction. She's had some tumultuous times and I was there but not truly let into her inner world. I almost texted her to ask if we should remain friends. I decided not to because I was going to move and she never replies to texts anyway. She is in another place in her growth and even if she doesn't reach out again I wish her the best.

P.s I don't dislike astrology but the choices were limited! I'm a cancer.
P.p.s I wish I was more into poetry but I actually haven't read any of the options although I recognize their names.