Judy Geller - Lilly Friend Project

Preliminary Questions

Do you live within a thirty-minute radius/are you comfortable commuting to Murray Hill or elsewhere in Manhattan to hang out with me?

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Are you crazy?

Yes No

Can you supply a personal website or social media profile?

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Once I review your application, I will reach out to have a more formal, sit-down interview to be my friend in Manhattan. This interview will be videotaped and I will be posting the footage on social media. Are you able to report to Manhattan and spend at least an hour for the interview?

Yes No

Open Questions

Why are you filling out this questionnaire?

I saw this poster near my new job. And I thought my friend [REDACTED] and would have fun doing this!

How many "close friends" (by close friends I mean people that you see more than twice a month if they live in the tri-state area or if they are a long-distance friend that you speak with at least twice a month) do you have?

Do you listen to Billie Eilish? If so, why?

I have heard her music and I like it. But I really only listen to the same 2 playlists for 5 years ago

It's Saturday morning! What time are you up and what do you want to do with the day?

I have been working Saturdays but that will be over soon. I mostly wakeup before noon and knit and watch TV. And relax

Have you ever had an existential crisis? How did it come about and what was your ultimate takeaway from it?

Yes many. I have been through a lot in life. But I like to think I come out of every situation stronger and more confident in life

You are at a party and a topic comes up that you could go on and on and on about that nobody else knows anything about. What is the topic and would you talk about it or not talk about it?

I can always talk about something. I am equally as happy to listen. How long I go on depends on how much I have had to drink. I talk about a lot of random topics from star wars to queer culture

What do you think about feminism? How did you come to that conclusion?

FUCK THE PATRIARCHY!Because as a femme presenting person I have been the victim of a lot of gendered issues and I don't believe gender is a legitimate factor in most situations

If there was an alternate reality in which you had a debilitating, life-altering addiction, what would you be addicted to?

Wasting money. Mostly on knitting stuff maybe random foods and stuff. I'd maybe be addicted to nicotine if in the other world there were no side affects.

What are your dreams?

I want to be so rich I can buy any cheese without looking at the price and own my own apartment/house While working a blue collar job

Do you believe in ethical consumerism or is it a drop in a giant well that has already been dug by multinational corporations so it doesn't matter?

It's a drop in a giant well.But every person can make a little impact in their own way

Multiple-Choice Questions

What qualities are most important to you in a friend

Loyalty Honesty Humor Inspiration A and B C and D

What is the worst thing on this list

Processed sugar Stubbing your toe Throwing up Your mom(or another parental type figure) telling an old embarrassing story in front of new people Realizing you were scammed out of $30

Work is:

A means to an ends A way I bring my passions to life Something I do to better society A total bummer A myth that allows rich people to steal from poor people

Which poet's writing do you most connect with?

Sylvia Plath Rumi Rupi Kaur Rainer Maria Rilke Pablo Neruda

Do you feel like you've lived one life or lots of lives?

Lots of lives Once life I don't think about it like that I don't feel like I am living I am too busy living to think about it

How do you feel about answering all these questions:

Annoyed Intrigued Resentful Inspiration Excited to meet in person Neutral

Aristotle once said; "my friends, there are no friends." How do you feel about that:

Agree Disagree Neutral That's so cold and unfeeling! Form is emptiness, emptiness is form. Emptiness is not other than form. Form is not other than emptiness

Essay Question

Please describe a friend breakup you have gone through. If you haven't gone through a friend breakup, please explain why you think you have never gone through a friend breakup. Outline a major friendship in your life and explain why it is successful.

My friend [REDACTED] and I only knew each other for 3 months before we moved in to become roommates together. We lived together for 2 years. It was miserable. She was a terrible person and treated me like garbage. This is the friendship that made me decide that you can be friends with someone as long as they don't drag you down. Once they start dragging you down. You can give them as many opportunities as you want but they won't change unless they want to change and unless they desire the same things in life that you desire. If it gets to a point where you realize you were just injuring each other by being friends, the friendship should end but if you were able to grow and change and work with each other then that is someone who's worth keeping in your life.

My friend MJ took me in when I had no where else to live. They made sure I was safe and taken care of. I only needed a temporary situation and they were happy to help. We had lived together as orientation leaders in college and ran a radio show together too. We encourage each other to grow and explore ourselves but also our friendship. No matter where life has taken us we have remained friends and supported each other through ups and downs and plenty of other friendships.